Words of advice
Today one of my patients offered some unsolicited advice. He said it doesn’t matter how much you weigh, you should just accept it and love who you are. He said he tells his 350lb wife that all the time. I literally plugged my ears (jokingly). I agree with that to some degree. I do have real issues with loving myself and I am working on that, but that is not an excuse to be unhealthy and that was my argument to him. I am really focused on living a healthy lifestyle that includes exercise and eating right, not just on losing weight. There are plenty of unhealthy skinning people and I know that although I am packing about 35 extra pounds, I am in good cardiovascular shape and take no medications. I see the affects of obesity everyday and it can be devastating to a body. I want people to love themselves inside and out, but not use it as an excuse for acceptance of what is not good for you. I am trying hard to stay motivated in my weight loss/fitness journey–so at this point I don’t want anyone to tell me to just accept how I am–been there, done that
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i hear you - there is some sort of balance between accepting ourself and pushing for change. I keep wanting to be happy with myself over all just not with certain behaviors. Really, when I am happy and truly accept who I am I don’t act in as hurtful ways - overeating and under exercising. The acceptance for me has become about me as a whole person - love the faults and all and decide how i want to be different and then go for that coming from a place of love. i am here to be more of the person i want to be, not just to lose weight.
I’ve always believed that one should love and accept themselves just the way they are. But I think it can be looked at as I love myself and respect myself enough to know that I need to change a few things about my eating/exercise to make my life better. I accept that I’m a big girl, I get it, I’m fat! But that doesn’t mean that I can’t love and accept myself as a smaller girl too.
Thanks for leaving a comment- ditto the above poster. Losing weight isn’t just about looking good, there is a big health factor to it! I’m not so certain about loving yourself so much you can’t change- thats just a cop out! I lost 50 my last pregnancy and what really helped was looking at weight loss as something fun and easily done. Forget the challenge part of it…I guess, in my case, if I tell myself something long enough, I believe it =) Again- goodluck! And look at the positive side- you are bound to succeed!
Can one be really be happy if they are obese…..its an effort to do everything….tying one shoes is the equal to the effort of some in shape doing sit-ups………can you be happy sweating profusely when in a crowded party atmosphere….are you comfortable licking an ice cream cone while others are watching……..I am wired with a FAT BRAIN……for me food is everything except what it is intended to do….food is to nourish the body….not to calm me down……not to make things exciting when I am bored….not to releive stress…..Me as a fat person became very good lying to myself…..I ran marathons…..I exercised………I lost weight……..I gain weight………I can’t stand looking at myself in the mirror……why would I think that other people would want to……so I have stopped lying to myself……its not okay to be FAT……….do agree health is more important than be skinny……
i agree with everything said above as well. i mean, really, how attractive is it to not be able to wipe your own ass? you CANNOT feel good about that.